One of the greatest passions in my life is to see the Church embrace adults and children with disabilities. Not out of pity or out of service, but out of a genuine understanding, acceptance, and celebration of their life.
It seems right to start this post with the same words I wrote at the beginning of my last post.
This Church, this body of Christ – with all of its broken pieces along with its many gifts and talents – is beautiful. But it can also be so ignorant that it pushes away the most vulnerable
When I wrote about the Church forgetting us – families impacted by disability – I knew it was a real need. The Church needs to see us, embrace us, include us. The last few days, many of you shared your stories, your experiences, your heartbreak, your disappointment. I have prayed for each one of you, I’ve seen your pain, I’ve felt it.
But you have also shared the beautiful side of the Church, and how it come along your side to embrace, encourage, and love your child and your family.
And as church leaders you have responded too. You have admitted you don’t know where to start, or that you didn’t realize it was a need. Before I became a special needs mom, I was also unaware of the need, but let me encourage you, because now that you know you can do something about it! If you wonder what you can do, my husband and I want to help you find your starting point.
As we continue to have these conversations, let’s remember to extend grace and forgiveness. We all need it. And as we work together, we can help the Church recognizeand embrace disability. What a beautiful body of Christ we can be!
Some of you have asked about the 80% statistic of families and adults impacted with disability that do not regularly attend church. This statistic came from Joni and Friends. A few years back I had a series of phone conversations dreaming with them how to bring disability awareness to our Christian denomination. I wrote down a lot of information, and the 80% came from their statistics (I was shocked to hear that). I searched their website to link it here, but they do not have the statistics posted. They do, however, provide those if requested, and I have requested their disability information and statistic resource.
Someone mentioned that this statistic is also found in The Center for World Missions in CA. I was unable to find that on their website as well.
But here is another way to look at this: 20% of the population has a disability (and this is a true statistic, you can find it in government sites). So at the average church, are 20% of their members people/children with disabilities? No? Where are they? They are certainly not sitting in church!
Like all things, change begins with awareness.
Walking down the street, Jesus saw a man blind from birth. His disciples asked, “Rabbi, who sinned: this man or his parents, causing him to be born blind?”
Jesus said, “You’re asking the wrong question. You’re looking for someone to blame. There is no such cause-effect here. Look instead for what God can do.
John 9:1-3 (The Message)
DISABILITY IS NOT A RESULT OF SIN
Even back in Jesus’ day there was an inaccurate perception that disability was a result of sin. But what did Jesus say? “It was not because of his sins or his parents’ sins, this happened so the power of God could be seen in him.” (John 9:3 NLT)
PEOPLE WITH DISABILITIES DON’T NEED HEALING
Is God in the healing business? Absolutely! And he often times does chose to heal. I believe that wholeheartedly.
But there is a fine line between sickness and disability. They are not the same. For example, my daughter is not sick with Down syndrome, she is actually a pretty healthy girl. Down syndrome is part of her genetic makeup, much the same as the color of her eyes, hair, and skin.
I know in the John 1:1-3 story, Jesus goes on to heal the blind man. What I don’t understand is why we have decided that God wants to heal everyone with a disability while we journey in this life. The only time God actually promises complete healing is in heaven. While Jesus walked among us, he gave us a little taste of what that will be like, perhaps we decided by those examples that this is the way God chooses to always work.
And God’s power is not dependent on our faith. Let’s be thankful for that!
GOD HAS A PURPOSE FOR DISABILITY
Jesus said it, look for what God can do. God wants to show us his power, we just need to be willing to see it.
I wonder sometimes if our view of God is so small that we fail to recognize how and where He is working. Perhaps we have forgotten that He can see the full picture of our lives, from beginning to end, and we struggle to accept that his greatest blessings often come through our hardships and challenges.
We are part of one body, the body of Christ. And I can assure you, people with disabilities are important members of the body. We need them as much as they need us. We all need each other.
We know that a disability focus is much needed within the Church. This is our unreached people group in our own backyard, so what can we do?
There are great organizations out there committed to help churches reach out to the disability community.
Joni and Friends is built on Biblical truth and the foundation of Jesus Christ. They are about advancing disability ministry and changing the church and communities around the world. They help equip churches for a disability ministry (for all ages).
The Inclusive Church believes that every church needs a plan for inclusion. Amazing resource for church leaders; from creating sensory rooms, to creating intake forms, to training volunteers. You can also check out their Facebook page.
Key Ministry is committed to help every child with a disability find a church. They seek to come alongside pastors and volunteers with relevant tools and resources to enhance their ministry. They have created an online Resource Kit with a variety of articles, forms, ideas, and how-to guides to take your ministry to the next level. You can explore their Key Ring Binder, Inclusion Fusion Library, The Workbench, FREERESPITE, Special Events, Party with a Purpose, and Key TV modules to find new ways to reach families affected by disability in your own community!
Nathaniel’s Hope is dedicated to sharing hope with kids with special needs (VIP kids) and their families. They help churches establish buddybreaks, or free respite for families with VIP kids.
Same Lake, Different Boat: Coming Alongside People Touched by Disability
by Stephanie Hubach (affiliate link)
When the church attempts to function without all of its parts, the body of Christ becomes disabled. This work is designed to renew our minds to think biblically about disability. This is perhaps my favorite book on disability.
Leading A Special Needs Ministry
by Amy Fenton Lee (Founder of the Inclusive church) (affiliate link)
This books serves as a practical “how-to” handbook for the family ministry team working to welcome one or 100 children with special needs. Easily referenced guidance is offered for expressing care for parents who are learning that their child has a diagnosis all the way to developing programs, policies and education for volunteers working with children with disabilities. Example ministry documents are provided throughout this resource guide.
Walking With Tension
by Jenny Hill (affiliate link)
From the book: What kind of God hears the desperate cry of a little girl to be physically healed…and says no?
Learning how to walk with cerebral palsy was hard, but learning how to walk alongside God was harder. In Walking with Tension, Jenny Hill shares her journey to seek healing from her disability. When healing doesn’t happen, she begins to wrestle with God over some big questions. “Is God really good?” “Where is He in the midst of our struggles?” and “How do we love God when we don’t understand Him?
WHERE DO I START?
If you are a church leader (or someone that wants to start a special needs ministry), you need to first recognize where your church is at in the process.
Do you need to first educate, bring awareness, and show there is a real need for the church to focus on disability? You might want to start by reading Same Lake, Different Boat by Stephanie Hubach.
Is there just one or two kids in your congregation that have special needs? The Inclusive Church can be a great resource for you with lots of different ideas of how to meet the individual needs of the child.
Is your church ready to start a special needs ministry? Dig in to Key Ministry.
You are still not sure or you just need to talk to someone? Amazing how God works! My husband and I have been passionate about this, and God used your recent stories to make us move forward to the next step in our ministry. We are excited to help your church find the right solutions for your specific situations. For now, and until we have this better established, send me an email. ellen at ellenstumbo dot com
FOR THE FAMILIES AND THE ADULTS LIVING WITH DISABILITY
Joni and Friends helps families and adults impacted with disability find the right church. They have a large database of churches that are actively serving the disability community. Check out their “Find churches with disability ministries” link.
Not Alone: Finding Faith and Friendship for the Special-Needs Journey is a blog written specifically for you! Full of encouragement, understanding, and community. Written by special needs parents for the parents. Check out their Facebook page too.
And friends, keep your stories coming. Your voice is important, your experience matters. And our voices, united, can make a difference.
This beautiful Church will get it.
About the photo: I wanted to show you the two precious girls that fuel my passion to see the church embrace disability. What a privilege to be their mom!
Ellen Stumbo writes and speaks about finding beauty in brokenness with gritty honesty and openness. She’s passionate about sharing the real – sometimes beautiful and sometimes ugly – aspects of faith, parenting, special needs, and adoption. Ellen’s writing has appeared on Focus on the Family, LifeWay, MomSense, Not Alone, Mamapedia and the Huffington Post.